Many are convinced that the sexual predilection of loving partners gradually fades with each year of their life together.
Such a situation can indeed occur if the couple does not timely make joint efforts to return the former flame of desire, rekindling the fire of love and mutual thirst for intimacy.
This article contains a list of recommendations of experts on how to improve sexual relations, shaken due to typical domestic, family, work, psychological or other kinds of problems.
The erogenous zones should be forgotten.
Once there was a widespread opinion about the conditional division of the human body into areas, some of which are able to respond to touch with excitement, and others are not related to sex in any way.
Now this theory is recognized by experts as fundamentally flawed. It is proved that during the awakening of sexual desire, the whole body turns into a single erogenous zone. If a man or woman feels physical or emotional discomfort, erotic sensitivity of the most responsive parts of the body is lost.
This happens when a person feels fear, irritation and resentment, if he or she feels cold or physically hurt.
Therefore, the theory of dividing the body into erogenous and non-erogenous zones is meaningless. Its supporters deliberately limit themselves in limiting fantasy, deprive themselves of the motivation of mutual exploration. After all, the touch of a partner to many parts of the body, which, it would seem, are not directly related to sex, can bring great pleasure. For example, foot rubs.
Intimate massage
There is special literature explaining the techniques and methods of these delicate massage procedures, which give an unequivocally positive and powerful effect.
The best way to understand how erotic massage is performed is to visit a special salon. Such an institution employs professional masseuses with the necessary experience and technical skill.
They help clients to learn the secrets and desires of their own body and understand what is necessary to awaken sensuality and desires in their partner or partner.
The ideal solution is a visit to a massage parlor and at least one session of erotic massage for a couple (in Prague, this kind of spicy services are especially in demand).
The result of this procedure is the acquisition of inner harmony, increased self-esteem, the ability to look at your loved one from a different angle to understand and realize his needs and desires.
After it is important to regularly practice this kind of eromassage in a cozy, relaxing home environment. It is necessary to do it to each other without hurry, with maximum attention and effort, preferably using special stimulating pleasant aromas and enhancing the effect of sliding oil.
Finding “entry points” into sex
Spontaneous sexual intercourse should be avoided. The calculation of one of the partners that such a method will help to strengthen the weakened intimate relationship is erroneous. In fact, it is nothing more than a manifestation of selfishness.
Resorting to spontaneous sex, its initiator shifts responsibility to the partner (more often it is a partner), believing that this person is obliged to perceive such a sudden act of intimacy no differently than a gift.
In fact, this opinion has nothing to do with reality. In order that intimacy can bring pleasure to both man and woman, it is necessary to search for “points of entry”. The ways of appropriate search can be different. Some couples invent certain conventional signs, peculiar rituals that precede intimacy and signal it.
They become conscious invitations to the space of intimacy and may have a veiled meaning, understood only by the couple. For example, such a signal can be a message from one of the spouses that he or she is going to take a shower and will forgive his or her partner not to fall asleep in bed.
Improving personal sexual competence
Work on the relationship should be joint, but the initiator of the process should be the one who is not satisfied with the current negative situation.
Pressure on the partner in this case is not appropriate absolutely, as well as claims, reproaches, condemnation: they will cause the opposite effect to the expected, that is, rejection, rejection.
Initially, a person who wants to change for the better in the intimate microclimate, should begin with the correction of their own behavioral attitudes and reactions.
Usually if a passive lady notices, for example, that her partner is busy reading an erotic book, she sooner or later begins to show interest in his occupation. And here it is important not to miss the moment, offering in time to the partner to connect to such a fascinating reading.
This will help to open new opportunities to rekindle the former passion. Many couples who have been married for many years, manage to renew mutual sensuality, resorting to role-playing games and toys, using a variety of foreplay and changing positions.
Position of not conforming to standards
Many couples lose the initial mutual passion and strength of attraction to each other because of some stereotypes about “normal sex” in marriage.
This position rejects attempts to experiment with novelty in a long-term relationship a priori, considering them impermissible.
As a result, the applicant for more vivid sensations begins to look for them on the side, with another sexual partner, with whom the realization of fantasies is possible.
In fact, standard, classical intimate practices, bring full-fledged pleasure are not able to everyone. Especially when it comes to the fairer sex.
This is a strong argument to forget about the concepts of “abnormality”, “perversion” when it comes to the realization of sexual desires.
Prevent a decrease in mutual passion will help such gestures as regular planning of special surprises for your partner – from small notes of love content to the organization of unexpected dates, romantic dinners, travel. A huge positive role can play a non-trivial gift – depending on the temperament, worldview and emotional needs of your partner, it can be a flight in a hot air balloon or a personalized spoon.
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